Friends or Foes?
It is really hard to know who is truly your friend and who is not. After all, there is this saying "Keep your friends close but keep your enemy closer". So, how do you honestly decide if someone is a friend or an enemy? How do you know how to decipher those smiles and laughter? Because for all I know, behind those smiles and laughter there lies a cryptic code of hate.
I do have friends, in case you are thinking that I am a pathetic person who can’t communicate or be in the presence of another’s company. But there had been experiences that show me that you can’t know a person’s feelings or thoughts within just through their demeanour or physical actions.
There are "friends" who just plain use you. After you have know them for a while, acquaint yourself with them, then they would start to reveal the true purpose of their friendship. For example, you do him or her all these favours and you don’t really expect anything back. However, in a while he or she will pretty much just walk all over you. Say, you go ahead and call them when there is this amazing fair about books when you found out about it and when they found out about something, they just pretty much leave you in the dark.
And then there are "friends" who stab you in the back. You were great friends with this guy since Form 3. And just when you thought that you have finally found that someone who you could truly regard as a friend, one day he goes ahead and tell another classmate in the Biology Lab that you are stingy just because you won’t type out his part of the History project (he does have a computer with a printer, in case you are wondering) that was supposed to be a team work while you were doing a presentation on enzymes in front of the class.
Not to forget, there are also "friends" who is nice to you in front of your face but behind you, she bitch about you to another person. And incidently, she come to you and talk bad about that friend of hers whom she just bitched with a minute ago. Okay, it is pretty much a case of back stabbing. But in this case, it is pretty much about the two-faced snake and I hate, no, despice that a two-faced snake.
So, tell me, how do you seriously decide who is the friend and who is the foe? How do you know when the time has come for you to regard that friend as your shadow whom you can reveal your thoughts to? How do you know when familiarity had finally turn to hostility? How do you know where to draw the line and most important of all, how would you know if you or your friend had crossed that line? Tell me, for I am not your friend but neither am I your foe.
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I personally think that you should trust your own instincts. To know whether he or she is a friend or a foe requires one main element….Time
It’s only when you’ve encountered incidents or events or wtvr with them that you can see their true colours.
And having friends that you can communicate doesn’t mean friends that you have a lot in common. It’s the process of adapting one another’s behaviour and definitely acceptance.
Friends actually reflect who you really are…Sure, You’d say i am me and nothing is about to change that but SERIOUSLY the people around influence you in some way.
And You can’t just live in denial and say hey, this is me n like it or not i will be like this for the rest of my life. Cos that sounds more like Shrek than Chester,don’t you think?
Humans HAVE to change just like the changing course of life, the climatic changes of Earth. Yeah. Everything changes. N so hv you. I still rmbed those times you were shouting for Esmeralda. Well still do that? Of course not cos we grow up mentally other that physically.
SO this is our teen hood or what they usually consider as our rebelious phase. So just put that in mind. Ignorance is bliss but being too much of that, hardens you just as it dries up your mould. Of course we shouldn’t just listen to others and let them shape us. We are given the gift just like other homo sapiens. The ability to rationalize differentiates a human from an animal. IT’s what brings about civilisation.
The best part of having friends? You learn to tolerate, give and take, share you thoughts and trust yourself. I know we learn all of these values in Pendidikan Moral and as a matter of fact memorized their definitions but Nothing beats practical exercise. Hehe The same reason why we have to conduct experiments before accepting a theory. The same reason why we are forced to do kerja amal for pendidikan moral.
I have to agree it’s gonna be tough before you can find true friends but the results will be more than satisfying once you do. You will not regret it. Trust me…
Sure there will be clashing once in a while. After all, we are only humans but to regard one as your enemy just because of his or her immaturity is not right.
I believe it’s up to us friends to clear the air and help on another realise his/her mistakes.
So good luck! I hope you don’t regard me as a nagging cousin. I just felt like writing. If i have insulted you in any way, I’m sorry. PEACE =D